Most of us could be already aware of the typical mistakes we commit in our relationships and their impacts. What most us forget; however is that whenever we hurt our partners through these mistakes we plant a seed of negative attitude. When it grows and finally matures, it turns into horror, constant chaos, and hatred thus opening avenues for potential relationship threats.
Chantal Heide, a relationship expert at Canada’s Dating Coach, says “For the person experiencing lingering negative feelings the mental and emotional torture can be enormous.” He and other experts such as Tony Evans of the book Kingdom Marriage agree that relationships are at no exception to face threats. According to their explanations, they considered the following to be the most common relationship threats.
1. Revenge
In his relationship advice, Heide says, “get even with your partner.” In any loving relationship, none of us is certainly perfect. However, when a partner transgresses, we always need to solve the dispute as quick as possible. Keeping too much hatred for your partner only builds up to ravage, which will undoubtedly explode at some point when you can’t take it anymore.
2. Lust
Lots of us confuse this with love. Lust is a selfish act, while loving involves intimacy and connection. When you are lustful, you do not feel or see the satisfaction you get from your spouse. Most people in this situation tend to go outside the relationship forgetting that this could be quite detrimental to any partner. Strong sexual desire could be hard at times to control, and some who can’t contain it tend to look for other alternatives, the sex dolls. See the various categories and models here.
3. Anger
When you feel fear and you want protection, anger is the most convenient tool that most people use. Heide explains that an ‘offensive-defense’ results when one cannot find the goods they expect to see in a relationship. Those who do not know better how to handle anger, they always think of fighting back given an opportunity instead of finding a long-lasting solution to what always gets them hurt.
4. Envy
As some would put it, minding your own business is one key aspect of leading a happy relationship life. Your business here should be your relationship. Hence stop focusing on those of your friends, cousins and so on. If you let jealousy grow inside you about their new jobs, profession, cars, family, and much more, you will forget your partner. It is a reputable act in any relationship to ensure you only focus on that which concerns you.
5. Hopelessness
Comments like, ‘my husband can’t change’ or ‘my wife can’t do this’ are quite common among most marriage partners. According to Heide, this is an indication of hopelessness, and when it takes deeper root, it breeds contempt, which finally results in separation. The involved parties will be finding ways to exit the relationship and not to build.
Conclusion
Relations are like a trip to the moon, exciting when everything is working out. However, as much as we try to be careful with what we say and do to our partners still disputes, threats and other ugly issues come in. For this reason, it is why some of us wonder what life would be or feel like when human relationships end and that involving humans and sex dolls set in? Will we still face all these relationship challenges?